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(Msg. 1) Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 3:11 pm
Post subject: Trying to wean....again
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So a couple of months ago I posted about weaning to ttc. I gave up on
the weaning, tried some other tactics, TTC worked, then I miscarried.
However, I'm back to wanting to wean. Not really for the same reasons,
more because I'm just tired and it's physically painful (was
particularly bad this week while I was miscarrying). DD is 25 months
now. She typically only nurses 1x/night before bed, but what's weird
is that for the 7 weeks or so I was pregnant she was really anxious to
nurse, wanting to nurse more and longer than usual even tho in the
past there were times she'd just forget to nurse.
SO here we are again. I've tried changing the routine a bit. I've
moved the 'nursing chair' out of the room. I've tried having DH put
her to bed, to read her a story. I give her tons of affection but if
that's too close to nursing time, it makes it that much harder on her
- it's like dangling a chocolate in front of a chocoholic's mouth and
not letting them have it. That's how she is if she's anywhere near my
breasts just before bedtime...So I try to step away a bit earlier and
let DH give her the cuddles. But now she's learned the word "nurse!"
and keeps yelling "Nurse! Maman!"
Surely it gets easier sometime? It's breaking my heart, but it hurts
too much to nurse these days.... |
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(Msg. 2) Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 7:44 pm
Post subject: Re: Trying to wean....again [Login to view extended thread Info.]
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On Aug 17, 8:59 pm, "MarieD" <a... RemoveThis @123.com> wrote:
> "cjra" <cjroh... RemoveThis @hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> news:33838b37-a1d8-4946-86b1-7a21c7247be5@z66g2000hsc.googlegroups.com...
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> > Surely it gets easier sometime? It's breaking my heart, but it hurts
> > too much to nurse these days....
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> Have you told her that it hurts? You can explain that sometimes as kids get
> older, it hurts you.
> Marie
Yeah. I don't think she really has quite that level of understanding,
at least not when she's in her 'addict-gotta-get-my-fix-now' mode...
I'm going out of town for two nights. I'm hoping that'll really do the
trick. I feel so bad. I just need to stop. I don't resent it yet, but
I don't like it anymore...I don't want to get to the resentment stage. |
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(Msg. 3) Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 9:59 pm
Post subject: Re: Trying to wean....again [Login to view extended thread Info.]
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"cjra" <cjrohr31.TakeThisOut@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> Surely it gets easier sometime? It's breaking my heart, but it hurts
> too much to nurse these days....
Have you told her that it hurts? You can explain that sometimes as kids get
older, it hurts you.
Marie |
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(Msg. 4) Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 2:23 am
Post subject: Re: Trying to wean....again [Login to view extended thread Info.]
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cjra wrote:
> particularly bad this week while I was miscarrying). DD is 25 months
> now. She typically only nurses 1x/night before bed, but what's weird
> is that for the 7 weeks or so I was pregnant she was really anxious to
> nurse, wanting to nurse more and longer than usual even tho in the
> past there were times she'd just forget to nurse.
This makes me think that the milk itself is still important to her, not
just the closeness of nursing. The increased frequency sounds like a
response to lower milk supply.
Here are a couple ideas you may have already tried:
1) Make sure that she has a snack and drink just before nursing time.
2) Use the "We'll nurse while I count to 10, then ..." You could offer
something like "I'll hold your hand and tell you a story."
If you can work the nursings shorter and shorter, she may get to the
point where she isn't actually getting milk. This may make it easier
substitute another calming activity for nursing.
> Surely it gets easier sometime? It's breaking my heart, but it hurts
> too much to nurse these days....
Here are a few suggestions that may help with the pain, but not with
your weaning goal.
One thing that has helped me when nursing hurts is switching sides
after a very short time. You can tell her that it hurts and you
need to switch sides.
Another thing that has helped me when nursing an older child is to
allow a short bit of nursing, then latch off for a bit of a break.
I often would get a letdown during the break and be able to go back to
nursing comfortably.
Working on her latch might help with the pain too.
--Betsy |
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(Msg. 5) Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 10:12 pm
Post subject: Re: Trying to wean....again [Login to view extended thread Info.]
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"cjra" <cjrohr31 RemoveThis @hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> Yeah. I don't think she really has quite that level of understanding,
> at least not when she's in her 'addict-gotta-get-my-fix-now' mode...
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> I'm going out of town for two nights. I'm hoping that'll really do the
> trick. I feel so bad. I just need to stop. I don't resent it yet, but
> I don't like it anymore...I don't want to get to the resentment stage.
I certainly do understand! Hopefully your trip out of town will work.
Breastfeeding is sweet and all, but when it gets to the point where you are
dreading bedtime because you hate the feeling, it should stop. I let it go
on for longer than I should have with my youngest child.
Marie |
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(Msg. 6) Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 10:14 pm
Post subject: Re: Trying to wean....again [Login to view extended thread Info.]
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"betsy" <betsy.RemoveThis@eskimo.com> wrote in message
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> 2) Use the "We'll nurse while I count to 10, then ..." You could offer
> something like "I'll hold your hand and tell you a story."
I had forgotton about that! Towards the end, I did give my daughter a time
limit, like I'd count to 20 or so and the rest of the time while rocking
we'd look at a book.
It's amazing the things I can forget.
Marie |
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